Tuesday, March 22, 2011

"We" before "me" (but always with "He")

"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her...."

In writing this blog I'm, in a sense, sealing my decision to fully follow God's will as expressed in the Bible. And when it comes to those verses which demand our all, this verse is the essence of putting oneself fully out there. I must admit there are times when I grumble if my wife takes me away from "me" time. But in marriage, "me" must always come second to "we" (and Christ--the "He" in the title of this posting--must always be a part of that "we"). Not to say that married couples should stay joined at the hip every moment of every day. But "me" time should be used to help each partner grow in whom the Lord created them to be so that he or she will ultimately contribute to a better "we." Couples should pray for wisdom and be able to communicate with each other about when time alone and time together is necessary for the health of both the marriage and each person's well-being. In short, whether it's time spent together or apart, that time should always take the best interest of the Lord, the spouse, and the marriage into consideration.

I may never be called to give up my physical life for Kim. Or maybe I will. More important, though is that each moment of each day I must die to the part of me that wants to choose "me" over "we."


  1. What beautiful and truth-filled reflections regarding the holy union of marriage. I really enjoyed this post...I look forward to reading more, it was my first time at your blog :)

  2. Thank you for that, Jessica. I appreciate your thoughtful response. I'll be sure to check your blog out soon.